10 Life Lessons I’ve Learned

I am trying to not only grow older, but too also grow wiser.

1. 1. I’ve learned you can re-invent yourself.

      If you don’t like who you are – be someone else.

      Change your name, your style, your sense of humor, your ‘identity’. You can start over and change so many things about who you are – without anyone’s permission. Go be who you wanna be!

   2. You should celebrate everything. The big things, the small things, the in-between things. Celebrate birthdays, babies, weddings, and promotions, but also celebrate a beautiful day, being alive, and your favorite ice cream shop opening for the season… Life is so much more enjoyable when we celebrate!

   3. No one has it all figured out. Man oh man, was I under the (false) impression that when I ‘grew up’ I was going to know the ways of the world, everything would make sense… I wrong. We’re all humans and no matter how old we are, we’re all on this earth for the first time. I’d like to think I know quite a bit, I read – research – have experienced many things first hand, but I’m also smart enough to know that just because I think something, it doesn’t mean it’s true. So I encourage you to just do the best with what you’ve got and continue being a lifelong learner.
      
      
   4. You can let things go. Old clothes, beliefs, and relationships. Not only can you, but you should. If the things you’re holding onto, don’t bring you joy – say goodbye. Smile, wish them well, and send them on their way. Stop putting energy into it. You don’t have to slam the door and lock it, or set it all on fire, you can be grateful for it’s time in your life, and move onto something new.
      
      
   5. Be embarrassing. Dance with the strangers, sing the karaoke, say ‘yes’ a little more.
      
      
   6. Live the life you want, and you realize that may be different than the life other’s want for you.
      
      
   7. Even if you’re mad, tell them you love them. Don’t walk away/ hang up without saying it. Even if your conversation ends with, “I don’t want to talk to you right now. l’m mad at you, but I still love you”. If you do love them, don’t let them think for even a moment that you don’t . If that’s the last thing you get to tell them – you’ll be happy that they know.
      
      
   8. Try not to care so much about looks. Your looks, others’ looks. What it looks like on camera or on Instagram. I know it’s hard, but take a few moments to focus on how something or someone feels or makes you feel. We’re visual creatures, but try not to make it everything.
      
      
   9. ‘Bad Boys’ are exciting because that “excitement” is anxiety not butterflies. They probably need therapy more than most. Do yourself a favor, and keep on walking.
      
      
   10.  Be careful who you vent to. Sometimes ya just need a good b**** session when someone’s got your feathers ruffled and you have the urge to light the world on fire. Vent when you need to, but be careful who that person is. There are some great people – some sweet souls who will listen and won’t judge, who’ll validate your feelings, who will keep the things you say in your fit of rage to themselves – and there are people who won’t. You can’t take it back once it’s out there, so trust your words and your heart, with people who are going to keep them safe.
       
       What are things you’ve learned in your life so far? 

       Love always,

        

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